The other day I was sitting with a group of friends and one of them was pouring his heart out. Confessing about a fight between him and his best friend, just because of a girl. In order to support him and make him understand, one of the friends in the group suddenly spoke..bhai..ladki hamesha fasaad ki jadd hoti hai..ladkiyon ne to Ramayana aur Mahabharat karwadi hai..phir ye aajkal ki dosti kya hai..meri maan ladki ko chhod aur dosti bacha..(bro..girls have always been the sole reason of problems, they were the reasons behind the great wars of Mahabharata and Ramayana..let the girl go..you just save your friendship).
As I heard him, the so called feminist fire inside me burst out into a volcano. I got so furious at this thought that it became difficult for me to control my anger.
I mean it is Ok that you want to leave the girl because she is obviously not loyal to you, but your so called best friend, too is not loyal, and that is I guess more important. How can you ignore it? But then how can you talk about all the girls on the basis of one wrong person, and most importantly how can you blame a female for Mahabharata and Ramayana? Was it really their fault?
I think it’s time to look at the picture from a different angle.
We have been hearing these sentences in India like “women are the cause of every issue..they are the reasons why Mahabharata and Ramayana happened.”
I am not a historian but speaking from the information I have, watching those mythological shows, movies, reading books and stories, is it right to blame women for what happened or what is written in those mythological books.
Was it Sita’s fault or the fault of Raavana who kidnapped her, just because she stepped out of her house?
Why do we blame Draupadi for Mahabharata?
Was it only Gandhari’s fault or also the fault of the king who banished his own son out of Ayodhaya? He was a king of a great empire. Didn’t he had a mind of his own?
I mean till when we will blame women for whatever wrong men do. We have been knowingly or ignorantly subduing women and then we blame the rising feminist fire..!!
I don’t mean to say that women are always right, what I only mean is to think before we speak, because the more we try to subside the volcano the more outrageously it will burst. Thus, as a society, we need to support and subside that anger in a calmer way.
We need to understand that either because of our attitude of following each other blindly or because of a real awakening, the women of today are waking up from their long sleep and we need to handle them more delicately. We need to change our thinking and we need to stand in their support and show them that yes the women are changing and so are the men and they understand and respect this awakening.
It’s time we step out of this judgmental box and let women live their life freely.
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